How to create a social media newsfeed that makes you feel good (about yourself)

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Many social media users feel dissatisfied, frustrated and low after scrolling their newsfeed. Given that a) we strive to present our best possible self on social media (e.g. by highlighting strengths and concealing weaknesses, by routinely editing our profile pics,…), and b) we tend to compare ourselves against others on social media, this does not really come as a surprise from a research point of view. If we try and measure up with idealised – often rather unrealistic or even fake – content, we may end up feeling interior, insufficient and unworthy, which is a very logical human reaction.
And although there seems to be a tendency amongst social media users to ubiquitously present themselves with a smile on their face (indicating a successful, happy life); a lot of us are enrolled in groups, where concerns, doubts, sorrows, and obsessions are shared that might over sooner or longer reinforce our own self-critical thoughts. 

One way out can be to reduce our overall social media usage and/or to take offline days. But this might be hard for someone who is used to routinely checking their newsfeed for a couple of times a day – and very understandably so. Therefore, I would like to draw out some ways to make your social media newsfeed a more positive and inspiring place. Because the good news is that we can, to a large degree, manage and control what we see on our newsfeed. Mindful exposure toward content that makes us feel good then can contribute to us feeling positively after scrolling our newsfeed.

And if we have the choice, why not expose ourselves to the good stuff?

Before we get on with creating a positive newsfeed, you might want to try and „detox“ your social media newsfeed from content that makes you feel negatively. 

First things first: See less of what makes you feel negatively

Reflect: What and who make me feel negatively when scrolling my newsfeed? 

Adjust your settings: Try and reduce this content, by either consciously unfollowing people/pages/groups or by editing your settings as shown in the  Facebook and Instagram screenshots below:

 


How can I edit my settings?
To access your settings, simply click on the three dots in the top right corner of a post. Facebook then allows you to see fewer posts like the one you selected, to snooze someone for 30 days or to stop seeing posts from this person at all. Instagram – to date – does not offer a snooze function, but you can unfollow someone anytime.


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Next step: See more of what makes you feel positively


Once you’ve reduced a bit of content from your newsfeed that makes you feel negatively, you can move on and deliberately add contents that make you feel good! 

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Below are some suggestions of people and groups that I personally follow. I have tried to include a good mixture of individuals and groups with a focus on (body) positivity, mental and physical health, mindfulness, self-love, self-acceptance, and general life satisfaction. Most of them (if not all?) have faced and successfully overcome their own issues (e.g. mental health issues) in the past and aim to inspire their followers to live a well-balanced and self-accepting life that focuses on happiness and health rather than dieting, calorie-counting, self-restrictive and self-controlling behaviour, obsessive exercising, and self-loathe.

Megan Jayne Crabbe 
(Body Positivity Activist, Author)
Copyright: @bodyposipanda
  Instagram:@bodyposipandaFacebook:@bodyposipandaWebsite:www.bodyposipanda.com    
Turia Pitt
(Athlete, Speaker, Author)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 16.17.43
Copyright: @turiapitt
  Instagram:@turiapittFacebook:@turia.pittWebsite:www.turiapitt.com    
Zach Miko
(Designer, Actor)
Copyright: @zachmiko
  Instagram:@zachmiko Facebook:Zach Miko Facebook Account    
Tess Holliday
(Plus-size Model, Blogger)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 16.14.44
Copyright: @tessholliday
  Instagram:@tessholliday@effyourbeautystandardsFacebook: @tesshollidayofficial    
Taryn Brumfitt
(Founder of the Body Image Movement)
Copyright: @bodyimagemovement
  Instagram:@bodyimagemovementFacebook:@bodyimagemovementWebsite:www.bodyimagemovement.com    
Renee Engeln
(Psychology professor, Speaker, Body Image Researcher, Author)
Copyright: Renee Engeln
  Instagram:@beauty_sickFacebook:@beautysickWebsite:www.beautysick.com    
Lord Troy
(Artist)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 16.34.42
Copyright: @lordtroy
  Instagram:@lordtroy    
Michelle Elman
(Life Coach, Speaker, Author, Body Positivity Activist)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 16.32.20
Copyright: @scarrednotscared
  Instagram:@scarrednotscaredFacebook:@scarrednotscaredWebsite:www.michelleelman.com    
Jessica Smith
(Speaker, Author, Mentor, Paralympian Swimmer)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 16.22.39
Copyright: @jessicasmith27
  Instagram:@jessicasmith27Facebook:@jessicasmith27Website:www.jessicasmith.com.au    
Jes Baker
(Body Positivity Activist, Author)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 11.39.25
Copyright: @themilitantbaker
  Instagram:@themilitantbakerFacebook:@themilitantbakerWebsite:www.themilitantbaker.com    
Ryan Sheldon
(Founder of „confessions of a binge eater“, Advocate for Body Acceptance & Self Acceptance)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 17.07.36
Copyright: @realryansheldon
  Instagram:@realryansheldon    
Jess
(Blogger, Speaker)
Copyright: @thefatfunnyone
  Instagram:@thefatfunnyoneFacebook:@thefatfunnyoneWebsite:www.thefatfunnyone.com    
Matt Joseph Diaz
(Body Positivity Advocate, Writer, Speaker)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 16.37.50
Copyright: @mattjosephdiaz
  Instagram:@mattjosephdiazFacebook:@mattjosephdiaz    
Virgie Tovar 
(Author, Podcast speaker)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 11.52.24 
Copyright: @virgietovar
  Instagram:@virgietovar Facebook:@virgietovarWebsite:https://www.virgietovar.com    
Celeste Barber
(Actress, Comedian, Writer)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 16.28.01
Copyright: @celestebarber
  Instagram:@celestebarberFacebook:@officialcelestebarberWebsite:www.celestebarber.com    
Joe
(Yoga Instructor)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 11.56.16
Copyright: Joe_lizzzzzz-yoga
  Instagram:@joe_lizzzzzz_yoga    
Dana Falsetti
(Yoga instructor)
Copyright: @practicewithdana
  Instagram:@practicewithdana Facebook:@practicewithdanaWebsite:www.studio.danafalsetti.com    
Jessamyn Stanley (Author, Podcast Speaker, Body Positivity and Health Advocate)
Copyright: @mynameisjessamyn
  Instagram:@mynameisjessamynFacebook:@mynameisjessamynWebsite:www.jessamynstanley.com    
Kristina Bruce
(Body Trust Provider & Integrated Life Coach)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 16.47.29
Copyright: @kristinabruce_coach
  Instagram:@kristinabruce_coachFacebook:@kristinabrucecoachWebsite:www.kristinabruce.com    
Amanda J. Bos
(Food Freedom Coach)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 16.29.48
Copyright: @food_freedom_coach
  Instagram:@food_freedom_coachFacebook:@AmandaBosFoodFreedomCoachWebsite:www.amandabosfoodfreedomcoach.com.au    
Christy Harrison
(Author, Podcast Speaker)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 22.40.04
Copyright: @chr1styharrison
  Instagram:@chr1styharrisonWebsite:www.christyharrison.com    
Jennifer Rollin
(Eating Disorder Therapist, Founder of the Eating Disorder Center)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 22.42.33
Copyright: @jennifer_rollin
  Instagram:@jennifer_rollinFacebook:Jennifer Rollin Facebook AccountWebsite:www.theatingdisordercenter.com    
Nina Mills 
(Intuitive Eating Counsellor)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 22.48.48
Copyright: @feelgoodeating
  Instagram:@feelgoodeatingWebsite: www.feelgoodeating.com.au    
Amberli Hartwell
(Self-Empowerment Expert, Body Image Advocate, Author)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 23.17.25
Copyright: Amberli Hartwell (Facebook account)
  Facebook (Group):„how to make a dream come true“ group Website:www.amberlihartwell.com    
Vie Portland
(Body Image and Self-Esteem Coach)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 22.50.24
Copyright: @vienesscic
  Instagram:@vienesscicFacebook:@vienesscicWebsite:www.vieness.co.uk    
Gillian Goerzen
(Super You Health and Fitness Coach, Body Positive Fitness Advocate, Author)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 22.55.57
Copyright:@gilliangoerzen
  Instagram:@gilliangoerzenFacebook:@superyoufitWebsite:www.superyou.ca    
The Every Man ProjectScreenshot 2020-09-04 at 16.51.39
Copyright: @theeverymanproject
  Instagram:@theeverymanprojectFacebook: @theeverymanprojectmovementWebsite:www.theeverymanproject.com    
The Moderation MovementScreenshot 2020-09-04 at 16.43.20   Instagram:@themoderationmovementFacebook:@moderationmovementWebsites:www.healthybalancefitness.com.auwww.lovewhatyoueat.com.auwww.lovewhatyoueat.com.au    
„we are body diversity“ pageScreenshot 2020-09-04 at 11.42.04
Copyright: @bodydiversity
  Instagram:@bodydiversity    
„the body is not an apology“ pageScreenshot 2020-09-04 at 17.03.07
Copyright: @thebodyisnotanapology
  Instagram:@thebodyisnotanapologyFacebook:  @thebodyisnotanapology     
Nutriri 
(Self Nurture Movement)Screenshot 2020-09-04 at 23.09.21Copyright: @nutriri_org
  Instagram:@nutriri_orgFacebook:@nutririhappyWebsite:www.nutriri.org     

I have also put together a list of books, links, videos and podcasts here.

Finally, I know that these are just a few suggestions out of many (thanks to all the amazing individuals out there who try and make our life a little bit better); I still do hope that you will find this post somewhat helpful.

If you have anything for me to add, please feel free to leave a comment below or message me directly (body-of-love@web.de). I will be happy to update this list as regularly as my busy PhD-student-Mummy-life allows me to. Thank you and much love x

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